Let's talk about the right path in human life!
There is a certain stereotype that a person should have a certain algorithm of actions in life, which allegedly contributes to getting on the right path of life.
As if you stood on it and that's it - you are on the right track. And in many ways, this idea is promoted in every possible way by representatives of commercial psychological services, because they benefit from the idea of the original inferiority of a person.
I understand perfectly well that each person goes through various stages of becoming himself as a member of the society in which he lives. But when I hear recommendations on the Internet like: if you get up at 5 in the morning ... or if you do exercises ... etc. And at the end of these headlines there is always an ellipsis that kind of encourages a person to click on it , since the Internet user is wondering what will happen to him if he gets up at 5 in the morning ...
In fact, as I think, no advice to do something simply mechanically will not give anything, since a person expects some certain effect from this action or cannot even know why he is doing it.
Why does a person believe that love exists!
In general, acting on the basis of the prejudice that you are inherently inferior will not lead to any constructive results, because their psychological premise is not correct. Now I'm not talking about the need to stop equipping life around you. I'm talking about the fact that a person should act on the basis of his state as from the center, and not from the defective periphery, which he initially imagines himself to be.
A person must act on the principle that he already has everything, and with his aspiration he only expands the range of his possibilities. I heard one of the figures on YouTube say that all human actions should be a derivative of his worldview, and not just mechanistic action. But I have a question - what do we mean by worldview?
As if the worldview is something complete, through the prism of which a person must perceive the world. But what if a situation arises that may not fit into this worldview? Again, the idea is promoted here that a person without a worldview is incomplete. But a worldview can also be a mechanistic act.
A worldview is not a certain prism that guarantees a certain completeness of existence. After all, the whole question is what ideas determine this worldview. The worldview of a person can be influenced by religion, his society, propaganda. Moreover, the first and second are manifestations of the latter.
One way or another, any act of a person, which was the result of the fact that he took a certain idea on faith, will be destructive for him, because he acts bypassing his feelings and his own understanding. The notion of a worldview as a "division into black and white" is a very clinical case.
Although from the standpoint of the very structure of society it is beneficial to cultivate such an idea of life in his head, because in this case a person becomes his "convenient" part, performing certain functions.
The topic of the article is suffering from love!
The right path for a person can only be the path that leads him to himself, and not away from himself. And a person’s path to himself cannot be indicated to him by any idea accepted from outside, because any external idea, accepted without his own reflection, turns for a person into an ideology, which further determines his entire life path.
There is no recommendation on the right path
There is no recommendation on the right path in life, according to how this path should be projected by the person himself, acting from his own feeling and understanding, but not perceiving some recommendations as a guide to mechanistic action.
Waking up at 5 am is nothing more than an idea that assumes an unfounded belief by the person himself that if he simply gets up mechanically at 5 am, then this will lead to some productive changes. Well, if for the current period of time I do not need productivity: if I want to sleep?
I understand that sometimes a mechanistic action is needed just to gain some experience, because it is necessary to build neural connections in the human brain, which actually form one or another attitude of a person to these processes. But when a mechanistic action is perceived as an idea, then this is already something not quite healthy.
Suppose, in order to learn how to drive a car, a person will sooner or later have to drive. But sitting behind the wheel, as the idea of just sitting behind the wheel, is meaningless, because it only makes sense when a person wants or is forced to learn to drive.
That is, getting up at 5 in the morning is necessary for what? Is this getting up dictated by some need? If a person wants to get up at 5 in the morning and go for a run, then that's great. But if this is done mechanistically, for the sake of achieving goals that are not even formulated, then this does not make sense.
Imagine yourself at the end of your life's journey
Imagine yourself at the end of your life's journey, looking at yourself, today, from the outside. Will you be satisfied with the position of a person who is chasing the "right way" only because it is normal from the standpoint of social patterns?
I'm not talking about going into the forest and living there. I'm talking about your own identity to yourself, to someone you would love unconditionally, regardless of any social trappings. In this case, it is not the action as such that has expediency, but the action that comes from the very personal need, where there is no concept of expediency, because the need is internal, and not dictated by the patterns of society.