What does one consider love?

I would like to discuss the topic of what a person considers love.

The word love is so worn out by various romantic crap that it is not clear what a person actually considers love. It is used as if love is something static, not subject to any change. As I already wrote in one of my articles about love, that the motive for such relationships is always the satisfaction of a need, regardless of who the person positions himself in them: a victim or a leader.

A person, for example, may think that he is sacrificing himself to another person, sacrificing his time and effort for him. But upon closer examination, it turns out that even the “highly self-sacrificing loving person” only identified himself in these relationships with the role of a kind of savior. But, in fact, he does not sacrifice himself, but satisfies his need, in the form of gaining some satisfying role of a savior, which allows him to assert himself in these relationships.

Here I wrote that freedom does not exist

Therefore, the relationship cannot be called any disinterested, since only one initial impulse is already built on one's own need. A person does not know anything about the needs of another person, if only because he is not one, and is guided solely by his own needs, although a person can say that he understands the needs of his partner and acts to satisfy his needs.

The idea of ​​love in relation to a sexual partner is subjective in terms of describing this idea, since the motive that prompts one to enter into this relationship is specific and is not described by any vague definitions like love. That is, the motive is defined, and it does not matter how the relationship itself is described by a person, since it is the motive that determines the cause of the relationship, and not the description of the reasons by the person himself.

What is a sense of life?

In this sense, the attitude declared by a person towards his sexual partner is just a form, but not the content itself, determined by specific reasons. Due to this form, a person is only trying to create an image of himself in his own eyes and in the eyes of his partner. But this image is just an image that is beneficial to the person himself, since through the form of an imaginary system of relations he satisfies his needs, the primary motives of which he does not understand, because they existed before the person began to interpret their effect, not the cause. .

In one of my articles I wrote about why I believe that love does not exist.